How Healing Can Hold Us Back

Everything that we believe about ourselves and the world around us impacts the reality we create in this life. Therefore, how we identify impacts what we create. I see so many people who are on a spiritual path identify as healers, or consider themselves as being on a healing journey. Although there is certainly an element of truth to this for most of us in the early stages of this journey, holding on to this need to continue healing ourselves and others is, in and of itself, a very limiting belief. The word "healer" has never resonated with me and it's only been more recently that I began to understand more deeply why there was something about it that always bothered me.

To heal by definition is to make something healthy or whole again, which requires that thing to be unhealthy or incomplete in order to happen

I've known for some time that I no longer believe I need to be healed or fixed, and that it is one of my deepest desires to instill that sense of wholeness in those I work with as well. However, it's only been in the last few months that the connection between how we identify and what kind of reality we are creating has really clicked. In my own process of transformation and shedding of identities that no longer serve, I've gotten to see first hand how much our reality shifts when we allow our identity to shift - when we allow who we are to shift. Through this process it's become quite clear that our core beliefs about who and what we are dictate the reality we create for ourselves and the realities we are co-creating with those around us. Therefore I ask, what does your identity require for there to be in existence for you to fulfill the objective you believe you're here for?

If you consider yourself to be a healer, what happens to you if there's no one to heal? Would your life lose purpose if you woke up tomorrow and you and everyone around you felt healed and whole? What happens to you then? If a core part of your identity requires there to be people that need to be healed that can't heal themselves, what kind of reality are you creating? I invite you to ask yourselves these questions and be very honest with the answers that come up. Notice if there's unfamiliarity or fear that comes up around not having aspects of yourself or others that need to be healed or fixed. This is not an invitation to heap judgment upon yourself or others, but simply to bring awareness and observation.

We are in a transition period now. There is still work to be done, but for many of us it drastically shifting as our awareness is shifting. We can begin to see the process we are playing an active role in not so much as a healing or fixing, but rather as a space holding for the transformation that is always occurring as part of the constant growth and expansion of existence. This growth and transformation will never stop as long as life exists. While we do have some agency and direction over this process, it's important for us to understand that it is a natural unfolding. There's nothing wrong with where we are now, and nothing necessarily "better" about where we're headed. More harmonious, yes, "better," no. I think of the process Earth and the human collective are in now as similar to the developmental stage of human toddlers. We are changing very quickly, and this is a vital stage in our developement. However, we don't look at toddlers and think there's something wrong with them or they need to be "healed" or "fixed" because they don't know how to manage their emotions, make rational decisions, or focus on a single task for long periods of time. We know those abilities are coming, but those processes are not aligned with their current developmental stage. At this stage, our job as parents is to hold a safe container for them to explore, learn about themselves and the world, and mature at a natural pace. This phase can be quite chaotic, but it is simply the nature of early development. I encourage everyone to view their own journey as well as the journeys of those they work with in a similar light and see how that changes your process, your identity, and your reality.

Although I use the word healing in my work because that is what many people (myself included) are seeking when they begin this path of self discovery, I do not consider myself a healer. I consider myself a space holder that people can come to for support with whatever transformational processes they are going through. Transformation is constant, even when nothing needs to be healed. I believe that we are currently in a process of transformation more than healing, and that there's nothing wrong with you. You're just being asked to transform rapidly at this particular time. You're already whole.  You're just stepping into a more conscious, more aware version of yourself that's more aligned to a frequency of unconditonal love. When we seek support for our transformation I believe it's not because we truly need it, but because we love for our transformation to be observed by others. This physical reality where energy is split into different beings and organisms gives us a a space where we can be witnessed by those outside of ourselves, and be in relationship with those outside of ourselves. How beautiful is it to be observed in our transformation by another, and to observe the transformation of those around us? Perhaps this is much of why we choose to keep coming back to this place.

I ask you to consider how your current identity is keeping yourself and those your work with trapped in cycles of suffering and incompleteness. Consider how you might reframe your purpose in this life to align with a higher timeline where there is no healing or fixing to be done, simply a space holding for and witnessing of a beautiful transformation. How can we shift our mindset to one that doesn't require illness or discomfort to seek out and allow transformation? How can we allow transformation to happen easily, through joy, pleasure, and playfulness? By letting go of attachments to who we have been, we can allow transformation into who we're becoming without being forced into change through mental and physical pain and suffering. Transformation is a natural part of life and the human experience, but we get to choose how it happens. We can choose to play the roles of doctor and patient - the healers and the ones who need healing - or we can hold space for and witness each other's transformations from a place of wholeness, beauty, and ecstasy. The choice is yours, but if you're reading this I believe you've already decided. All that's left is to let go of what you know and enjoy the ride you've already created for yourself.